How to transform your life through curiosity

My father, Harry Thurlbeck, was an incredible person! Born into a large working-class family in the 1920’s, he was a self-educated man who had a thirst for knowledge – for finding out about people, places and things. He was also a really talented artist, whose drawings remain treasured family possessions. Offered a scholarship to art school at age 14, he turned it down to become an apprentice motor mechanic in order to contribute to his family’s income.

This combination of artist and mechanic defined a key part of my personal development. An observant, though quiet man, my father was insatiably curious; always reading books and taking things to pieces and re-assembling them. He ‘fixed’ stuff that these days we would just throw away and replace.

Dad’s curiosity drove an innate desire within him to learn, as well as unlocking practical outcomes for a man with a limited income and a growing family to care for. I’m the third of seven children and know first-hand how hard that was to balance. As a child I loved to watch him work280px-Ford_Prefect_997cc_June_1960 intently on  fixing stuff! I recall him taking a vacuum cleaner apart, repairing fences and maintaining our first family car, an old Ford Prefect. It was held together by rust, grease, and lots of loving attention … and was the pride of our household till we bought our first black and white television.

Dad was always meticulous in his approach. He took his time and used an inventive problem solving approach. He was ever willing to play with new ideas, risk failure, remain upbeat and always come back with renewed enthusiasm. I confess that in trying to emulate him over the years, I have rarely achieved finding a place for every last nut, screw or bolt! I guess I didn’t watch carefully enough all those years ago … or maybe I am less meticulous? My wife still says to this day that I am very good at BIY … botch it yourself!

<a href=”″>Tweet: Being curious means you are willing to play with ideas, risk failure, remain upbeat and bounce back with even more enthusiasm!</a>

Beyond fixing things, Dad nurtured my passion for reading and for finding out about people, places and things through conversation. We shared a great passion for history and heritage. He was an amazing raconteur and always at ease with people in whatever setting. He nurtured my desire to learn and communicate, to share and engage. This has grown over the years and now I too have that insatiable curiosity about life and all that it brings.

Along the way, I have developed, through many direct personal experiences, a particular passion for people, for leadership and for developing organisations. At times those experiences have been very challenging. Throughout I have used my deep curiosity to help me steer my actionDaniel Buhr on my quote. When times have felt particularly difficult, such as  in 1997/8, I used my curiosity to help me discern ‘reality’ from some imagined state of being.  Saving £340k by making 14 people redundant was no easy leadership challenge and my curiosity drove me to look for a wide range of options, rather than settling on my first idea. Drawing on my curiosity has enabled me to embrace feedback, gain insight, seek clarity, understand others’ ‘reality’ and stay focused on values and purpose.

So when I was approached to write a chapter on Curiosity and Leadership for our new book, Energize Your Leadership, I was delighted. Here was an opportunity to achieve one of my life ambitions, to share my thinking and collaborate with 15 other co-authors. We shared our real life stories about how each of us overcame life and leadership’s low energy moments and emerged as the leaders we wanted to be. Our stories are about our commitment to re-ignite the spark of leadership that, all too often, is dimmed by the intensity, ambiguity and pace of modern life and work. I am sure that our stories will encourage and inspire you, simply because these are real stories told by real people about real situations. This is not text book preaching but real life examples!

<a href=”″>Tweet: Recognize that curiosity requires courage – to take risks, to be better as a person and leader, and to cultivate a bigger ‘world view’.</a>

So, whatever your role and position in life – student, corporate executive, working mother, lone entrepreneur or someone just looking for some encouragement, support or motivation – I encourage you to check out our new book – Energize Your Leadership: Discover, Ignite, Break Through.

The book is divided into four parts: “Energize Yourself,” “Energize Others”, “Energize Your Workplace” and “Energize Your Future.” Each chapter’s content stands on its own, so the book can be rEL Nowead in any order. All chapters follow the same framework: the author’s personal narrative, the lessons learned from the story, a few key questions for the reader to ponder, and finally some action steps based on the theme of each chapter.


I wish you well with your life’s journey and, should you buy our book, I believe you will not regret your decision to make that investment in your personal and professional growth and development. Your feedback is always very welcome.

If you wish to develop your curiosity, enhance your executive role, or become the leader you want to be, and inspire and motivate others around you, please connect with me. I believe in the power of conversation … and am always happy to listen and ready to serve.

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